Service to the Community

Introduction

2:50 Beyond the Why (Andrea is currently writing it) is knowing and understanding what you are doing that taps into your passion. To be committed. Sense of Calling, let go of our own agenda, and find your calling. Something greater than ourselves, to create change. When we do what we are called to do – will have a ultimate impact on world and personal fulfillment. How to find our calling: what are our personal stories, strengths, skills. And then finding what makes the biggest difference. What are the values that are important to you, what makes you feel passionate and feel alive. Then Letting go of any plans and listen to where the future is calling you. What is really going to speak to you.

8:16 Retirement is like puberty; a complete reorganisation of your life. Perfect time to look at past achievements, skills and apply strengths and skills to something new. Contributing becomes more possible during working life so busy surviving can’t stop to do what we want to do. Most people want to make a difference.

11:00 What can I do in the next five years to make the world better. Make something happen with friends to find opportunity. Be very clear on who you are, what your community needs, and support each other in each person’s endeavour. Build a community  to share ideas, and develop something to feel fulfilled, coaching each other.

14:27 Finding your legacy: what we are leaving behind and what we are going to be known for Doing what gives us the greatest sense of fulfillment is our legacy for ourselves. Part of fulfillment is giving service to the community. Live our legacy to give to our community.

17:30 Working through your skills and strengths is one way, but also be aware of opportunities that are not obvious and just call to you. Use your strengths, although the strengths may used in different ways an in different proportions than in your working life.

19:20 A trend in business is to become more socially aware, provide something to the community. This is also applicable throughout your life, including retirement. We all can have a social mission throughout our lives. Chocolate and Coffee Day for Religious Harmony is an awareness day and is the result of the Lindt Chocolate Siege (Sydney 2014) where Muslims concerned about a backlash and were afraid to go outside. Someone on social media offered to ride with them to make them feel less vulnerable and saying that inclusion is important in our community. Andrea decided to also find a way to honour inclusion. She developed the Chocolate and Coffee Day for Religious Harmony. Anyone can ask a group together to to talk to someone who seems difference over  chocolate and coffee to foster inclusion. Have conversations and find the things that are similar instead of those that are different.

Everyone can have a Chocolate and Coffee Day for Religious Harmony. There are resources at the chocolate coffee day website (see contacts). Anyone can organise a day and invite whomever they like.

Contacts:

www.andreaputting.com.au

FB: andreaputting

chocolateandcoffeedayforReligiousHarmony

Resources:

Andrea Putting: Awake Stealth Leadership

 

 

Feeling Loss in Retirement

Retirement – Career/Work Loss with Heather Stang

 

Introduction to Heather and her work

 

3:45 Retirement is a major change in life which results in a normal loss reaction. Feeling loss of daily routine, identity, sense of meaning are all common. It is normal to feel loss as one shifts from daily work life to retirement.

6:00 Who are you now? Need self-compassion because you and your life are changing and need time and effort to feel comfortable in new role. List the quality/traits that you have that are not work-related is one technique to find the retirement you – spouse, parent, grandparent, volunteer, community member etc. Find how to relate to yourself in a non-work environment. Explore who you are now? What is your passion? Not easy and takes effort but needs self-compassion.

Kristen Neff: Self-compassion has three elements

a)       Self-kindness – how do you talk to yourself? Is it positive or negative? Humans have a negativity bias: where they pay attention to the negative more than the positive. Obsess over what is wrong, rather than what is right.  Be aware of your self-talk; will probably tend toward the negative because this is a major life change which takes effort to craft new role. Consciously  be aware of what you are saying and try to be neutral if not positive in your self-talk.

b)      Common Humanity – most people who retire will be stressed because of this major life change.  Normal human reaction to change. Build or join a community of others in similar situations.

c)       Mindfulness – state of mind of being aware, present, compassionate in the moment. Build resilience for the major change of retirement. Use mindfulness to check out what is missing when retired – connection?, meaning? Purpose?

17:00 Many are retiring and then returning to work.  Be aware why they are returning? What is their motivation? Are you avoiding something, or you truly love the job, or financial reasons. Good to understand our motivations. Know and understand why you are returning to work. Afraid of the void, the habits of work etc. These feelings of fear, distress, etc. are signals that something is out of balance. Be self-aware and explore the reasons for these feelings so that you can create the life you really want in retirement. Using mindfulness to step out of our habits and become aware of the moment. Find something new or something that you haven’t had time to do recently. Use mindfulness to find something new and or creative to encourage mental flexibility.

27:30 Time does not alleviate grief or loss but what you do with the time that will lead to lessening of these emotions. It is different for each person; each must find their own  purpose and meaning and that can  be a variety of things.  Finding meaning through activities is important in retirement.  Be open to opportunities that may be very different from what you have done previously or want to do .

34:09 Do retirement your own way. Create space to listen to yourself.

Contacts:

Website: www.minfulnessandgrief.com

FB: mindfulnessgrief

Insta: mindfulgriefquotes